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Dads matter: why fatherhood is vital and how to find support

Fatherhood is one of the most powerful roles a man can play - and yet, too often, dads are left out of the parenting conversation. In the UK, we’re seeing a growing recognition of just how essential fathers are to their children’s development, emotional wellbeing, and long-term success. But with that recognition must come support. Here’s why dads matter more than ever - and how to make sure they’re never left behind.

Why dads are crucial to child development

Children thrive when they have strong, nurturing relationships with both parents. Research consistently shows that involved fathers contribute to:

• better emotional regulation: Kids with engaged dads tend to show greater resilience and emotional stability
• improved academic outcomes: Children often perform better in school when their fathers are actively involved in their learning
• healthier relationships: A secure bond with a father helps children build trust and empathy in their own friendships and partnerships
• reduced risk-taking behaviours: Teens with present fathers are less likely to engage in risky activities like substance abuse or early sexual activity

And it’s not just about presence - it’s about connection. Whether it’s reading a bedtime story, showing up to school events, or simply listening, these moments build a foundation of trust and love that lasts a lifetime.

The mental load of fatherhood

Despite the joy of parenting, many dads struggle silently. The pressure to “provide” can overshadow the emotional challenges of fatherhood. Men may feel:

• isolated from parenting networks that often focus on mums
• unsure where to turn for advice or emotional support
• guilty for not meeting societal expectations of masculinity and strength

It’s time to change that narrative. Dads deserve spaces where they can be vulnerable, ask questions, and find community.

Where dads can find support

Here are some resources and communities that can help:

• DadPad: A practical guide for new dads, offering advice on everything from feeding to mental health
• Dads Unlimited: A charity supporting fathers through separation and promoting positive co-parenting
• Home-Start UK: Offers family support services, including help for dads navigating early parenthood
• Local parenting groups: Many communities now host dad-specific meetups - check your local council or library for listings
• Dad Matters: Works directly with services that support Dads, families and especially babies to increase engagement and knowledge across the sector
• Love Barrow Dad's Group: A growing group of dads making a genuine difference. The group meets every Thursday 10.30 am to 12.30 pm with FREE LUNCH at the Old Fire Station, 1a Abbey Road, Barrow. Contact Dean for more info 07542752067

And don’t forget your GP. If you’re struggling with mental health, sleep deprivation, or relationship stress, your doctor can be a gateway to counselling and other services.

Changing the conversation

We need to stop treating dads as “helpers” and start recognising them as equal partners in parenting. That means:

• including dads in antenatal classes and parenting workshops
• encouraging flexible working policies that support paternal involvement
• celebrating fatherhood in media and education

When dads feel valued, supported, and empowered, the whole family benefits.

Final thought

To every dad reading this: you matter. Your presence, your love, your effort - it all shapes the future of your children. Don’t wait until you’re overwhelmed to seek support. Reach out, connect, and know that you’re not alone.

Let’s build a parenting culture in the UK where dads are not just included - they’re celebrated.