Infant crying
Crying is one of the earliest and most powerful ways your baby communicates with you. While it can be distressing to hear, it’s important to remember that crying is normal - and it’s your baby’s way of saying, “I need you.”
Why babies cry
In the first few months of life, babies cry for many reasons. Most often, they’re asking for comfort, care, or help with a basic need. Common reasons include:
- hunger or thirst
- a dirty nappy
- feeling too hot or cold
- needing to be held or soothed
- feeling overstimulated or tired
- experiencing discomfort or pain (such as colic or reflux)
Sometimes, babies cry for no obvious reason. This can be especially common in the first 6–8 weeks, when crying tends to peak before gradually easing.
What you can do
Responding to your baby’s cries helps build trust and emotional security. Try these soothing techniques:
- hold your baby close and speak gently
- offer a feed if it’s been a while
- check for a dirty nappy or signs of discomfort
- rock or sway them in your arms
- use calming sounds like white noise or soft music
- take them for a walk in a pram or sling
Every baby is different, and it may take time to learn what works best for yours.
When it feels overwhelming
It’s completely normal to feel stressed or helpless when your baby cries for long periods. If you’ve tried everything and your baby is safe, it’s okay to take a short break. Put your baby down in a safe place and take a few minutes to breathe, stretch, or call someone for support.
Never shake your baby. Shaking can cause serious injury and is never a safe way to respond to crying.
Getting support
If you’re worried about your baby’s crying or struggling to cope, help is available. Speak to your health visitor, GP, or call NHS 111 for advice.
You can also contact the Cry-sis helpline on 0800 448 0737 (open daily from 9am to 10pm) to talk to someone who understands.
The ICON programme offers guidance for parents on coping with infant crying.
If you think something is wrong, speak to a health professional or ring NHS 111
Final thought
Crying is tough - but it’s also temporary. As your baby grows, they’ll develop new ways to express themselves. In the meantime, your love, patience, and presence are the most powerful tools you have.