Exam stress

Working towards exams can create feelings of worry and being under pressure, especially at university where your child is aiming for a degree. However, there are a range of things that you can do to help your child deal with the stress that they might be feeling.

Exams can be a major source of pressure for young people, especially at university where the stakes feel higher and the workload more intense. Whether it’s coursework deadlines, revision schedules or the fear of failure, stress can build quickly and affect both wellbeing and performance. As a parent, your support can make a real difference.

Understanding exam stress

Stress is a natural response to challenging situations, and a little pressure can sometimes help motivation. But when stress becomes overwhelming, it can lead to anxiety, sleep problems, low mood and burnout. University students may feel isolated, unsure how to cope, or reluctant to ask for help.

Signs of exam stress might include:

  • changes in sleep or appetite
  • irritability or mood swings
  • withdrawal from friends or activities
  • physical symptoms like headaches or stomach aches
  • negative self-talk or fear of failure

How parents can help

Even if your child is living away from home, your support still matters. Here are some ways to help them manage exam stress:

  • stay in touch – regular check-ins by phone or message can offer reassurance
  • listen without judgement – let them vent and avoid jumping in with solutions too quickly
  • encourage balance – remind them to take breaks, eat well and get fresh air
  • help with planning – talk through revision schedules or deadlines if they’re feeling overwhelmed
  • avoid pressure – focus on effort and wellbeing, not just results
  • remind them of their strengths – help them see the bigger picture beyond one exam or grade
  • suggest support – encourage them to use university wellbeing services or speak to a tutor if needed

Building resilience

Stress is part of life, but learning how to manage it is key. Help your child build coping strategies like mindfulness, exercise, journaling or talking to friends. Let them know it’s okay to feel anxious - and that asking for help is a strength, not a weakness.

Resources

Student Minds – mental health support and exam stress advice for university students
Young Minds – guidance for parents and young people on managing stress and anxiety
Mind – Exam Stress – practical tips and emotional support
NHS – Mental Health and Exams – tips on preparing for exams
NHS – Student stress

If exam stress is taking over and you're struggling to cope, you are not alone. Here are some organisations that can support you.

The Mix offers a helpline, advice and a forum for under-25s. 
Shout text service offers support to anyone who's struggling with their mental health. Text 85258

Exams may feel like the centre of your child’s world right now, but with your support, they can get through it feeling stronger, calmer and more confident.