As more young people in the UK explore and express diverse gender identities, parents are increasingly seeking guidance on how to support their children with compassion, clarity, and confidence. This article offers a practical overview of sex and gender, and how families can navigate the journey of gender identity together.
The difference between sex and gender
- Sex refers to biological attributes such as chromosomes, hormones, and reproductive anatomy. Most people are observed male or female at birth based on these traits
- Gender, however, is a social and psychological concept. It encompasses how individuals identify (e.g., male, female, non-binary, genderfluid) and express themselves through clothing, behaviour, and roles.
While sex is often seen as binary, gender is increasingly understood as a spectrum, allowing for a wide range of identities beyond traditional categories
Gender identity in young people
Many children and teens begin to question their gender identity during adolescence - a time of intense self-discovery. Some may identify as transgender (their gender identity differs from their sex at birth), non-binary, or another identity altogether. Others may simply feel unsure or fluid over time.
This exploration is not a trend or phase - it’s a deeply personal journey. According to YoungMinds, being seen and accepted for who they are is vital for a young person’s mental health, resilience, and wellbeing.
How parents can support their child
Supporting a child through gender exploration doesn’t require having all the answers - it starts with listening and learning. Here are some ways to help:
- stay open and curious: Ask respectful questions and avoid assumptions
- affirm their identity: Use their chosen name and pronouns. This simple act can significantly boost their self-esteem
- create a safe space: Let your child know they can talk to you without fear of judgment
- educate yourself: Resources like YoungMinds and the NSPCC offer excellent guides for parents
- seek professional help if needed: Gender identity can impact mental health. Therapists with experience in LGBTQ+ youth can provide valuable support
Common challenges and misconceptions
Parents may worry about peer pressure, social media influence, or long-term decisions like medical transition. It’s important to remember:
- exploration doesn’t equal transition: Many young people explore gender without pursuing medical changes
- support doesn’t mean agreement with everything: It means being present and respectful
- gender identity is not caused by trauma or confusion: It’s a valid part of human diversity
Helpful resources
• YoungMinds: Gender Identity Guide
• NSPCC: Supporting Children with Gender Identity
Supporting a young person’s gender identity is not about having perfect knowledge - it's about showing up with love, patience, and a willingness to grow. In doing so, parents help their children thrive as their authentic selves.