Crying is one of the first ways a baby communicates with the world. For new parents, it can be both distressing and confusing, especially when the reason isn’t immediately clear. But crying is not only normal - it's essential.
Why babies cry
Infants cry for a variety of reasons, and most are entirely benign. Common causes include:
- hunger: The most frequent reason, especially in newborns
- discomfort: Wet nappies, tight clothing, or being too hot or cold
- fatigue: Babies often cry when they’re overtired but struggling to fall asleep
- need for comfort: Sometimes babies just want to be held or soothed
- overstimulation: Loud noises, bright lights, or too much activity can overwhelm a baby
- illness: Persistent crying may signal something more serious, such as colic or an underlying medical issue
How much crying is normal
In the first few weeks, babies may cry for up to two hours a day. This typically peaks around six weeks and then gradually decreases. The pattern can vary widely between infants - some are naturally more vocal than others.
Soothing strategies that work
While not every method works for every baby, these techniques are commonly effective:
- feeding: If it’s been a while since the last feed, offer milk
- swaddling: Wrapping your baby snugly can provide comfort and security
- rocking or gentle movement: A walk in the pram or a ride in the car can work wonders
- white noise: Soft, consistent sounds like a fan or a lullaby can help calm a baby
- skin-to-skin contact: Holding your baby close can regulate their heartbeat and breathing
When to seek help
If your baby’s crying feels excessive, inconsolable, or is accompanied by other symptoms like fever, vomiting, or poor feeding, it’s important to consult your GP or health visitor. Trust your instincts - if something feels off, it’s worth checking.
Caring for yourself too
Listening to a crying baby for extended periods can be emotionally draining. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, it’s okay to step away for a few minutes while ensuring your baby is safe. Reach out to family, friends, or support groups. In the UK, organisations like Cry-sis (www.cry-sis.org.uk) offer helplines and resources for parents dealing with persistent crying.
Final thoughts
Infant crying is a natural part of early development. While it can be challenging, it’s also a sign that your baby is learning to communicate. With patience, support, and a few tried-and-tested techniques, most parents find their rhythm - and so do their babies.
Useful links
Cry-sis helpline
You can talk to a friend, your health visitor or your GP, or contact the Cry-sis helpline free at 0800 448 0737. It is open from 9 am to 10 pm, 7 days a week. Cry-sis can put you in touch with other parents who have been in the same situation.
If you think something is wrong, speak to a health professional or ring NHS 111