Transition to school: supporting your child from home to classroom

Starting school is a major milestone in a child’s life - and in yours too. Whether your child is beginning Reception or moving up to a new year group, the transition can bring excitement, nerves, and a whole lot of questions. Here's how you can support your 4 to 11-year-old through this important journey.

Understanding the transition

Children between 4 and 11 experience school transitions in different ways:

  • starting Reception: Often their first time in a structured learning environment
  • moving to Key Stage 2: A shift in expectations, independence, and academic challenge
  • changing schools: New surroundings, teachers, and friendships

Each stage brings its own emotional and developmental shifts. Your support can make all the difference.

Talk about it early and often

Children thrive on predictability. Start conversations about school well before the first day:

  • describe what a typical school day looks like
  • share positive stories from your own school experience
  • address worries gently - listen without rushing to fix

Visit and familiarise

If possible, attend open days or arrange a visit:

  • let your child explore the classroom, playground, and toilets
  • point out where they’ll hang their coat, eat lunch, and meet friends
  • practice the school run together to build routine and confidence

Build independence

Encourage small acts of independence to prepare them for school life:

  • dressing themselves
  • opening lunch containers
  • tidying up toys or books

These skills boost self - esteem and help them feel capable in a new environment.

Support social skills

Friendships are a big part of school life. Help your child:

  • practice turn - taking and sharing
  • use polite greetings and responses
  • recognise emotions in themselves and others

Playdates, group activities, and role - play games can help build these skills naturally.

Keep learning fun

You don’t need to drill phonics or times tables - just keep curiosity alive:

  • read together daily
  • count objects during play
  • explore nature, cook, or build things. Learning through play sets a strong foundation for school success.

Prioritise sleep and routine

A consistent bedtime and morning routine helps children feel secure and ready to learn. Aim for:

  • 10 - 12 hours of sleep per night
  • calm wind - down activities before bed
  • a predictable morning schedule with time for breakfast

Stay connected

Once school starts, stay engaged:

  • ask open - ended questions like “What made you smile today?”
  • celebrate small wins and comfort setbacks
  • build a relationship with their teacher - you're a team!

Final thoughts

Transitions can be tricky, but they’re also full of growth. With your support, your child can step into school feeling confident, curious, and cared for. Remember: you don’t need to have all the answers - you just need to be present.

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