Puberty

Puberty usually happens between the ages of 8-16. Not everyone goes through it at the same time though as we’re all different.

Puberty means that young people's bodies will grow faster than at any other time in their life. The brain releases hormones that tell the body it’s time to change. There is lots of useful guidance to support you and your young person through this period in their young life.

Understanding puberty

Puberty usually begins between the ages of 8 and 16, but every child develops at their own pace. It’s a time of rapid physical and emotional change, triggered by hormones released by the brain. These changes can feel overwhelming, so it’s important for parents to offer clear, calm support.

Starting conversations early

Children often hear about sex and relationships from TV, social media and friends before they fully understand what puberty involves. That’s why it’s important to talk openly and early - even before changes begin. Some girls start puberty around age 8, and some boys by age 9. These conversations shouldn’t be one-offs. Keep communication open and ongoing.

What to talk about

Here are some key topics to cover when discussing puberty with your child:

  • physical changes like body hair, growth spurts, periods and voice changes
  • emotional changes such as mood swings, increased sensitivity and new social pressures
  • personal hygiene and self-care
  • healthy relationships and boundaries
  • reassurance that these changes are normal and happen at different times for everyone

Tips for parents

To help your child feel supported and confident, try the following approaches:

  • use correct terms for body parts and changes
  • answer questions honestly and calmly
  • let your child know it’s okay to feel confused or embarrassed
  • avoid teasing or making jokes about their development
  • remind them that everyone goes through puberty differently

Resources

Information and support for families across the UK:

Childline – Puberty facts – clear, age-appropriate information for children and teens
NHS Live Well – includes information on early or delayed puberty
Teen Health – information and sources of support
Brook – sexual health and wellbeing advice for young people
Young Minds – mental health support for children and teens